Pregnant On The Sly
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I have been wanting to get pregnant for a long time, but my husband has made it clear that he isn't ready for two to make three. I stopped taking the pill two months ago without telling him. I just found out that I am pregnant and am feeling the worst guilt I have ever felt in my life. I'm afraid to tell him we're having a baby. Do I keep my deception a secret or clear my conscience and hope it doesn't ruin my marriage?
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Thursday 18th of February 2010 06:17:27 AM
You definitely cannot keep your deception a secret any further since your protruding belly is gonna be evident in a few month´s time. Please tell your husband about it for nothing beats a clean head and clear conscience! Tell him straight about how you feel, what that baby means to you and just how much you want it. Apologize to your husband as well for the couple of months of deceit and for not respecting his wishes. Convince him further that if you had room for two kids in your marriage, then why not have and welcome a third one as a blessing?
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Thursday 18th of February 2010 07:26:31 AM
There is little point in trying to hide it, because you won't be able to hide it for very much longer. You will need to bite the bullet and tell him you are pregnant. Only you know how he will take it. It is always better to tell the truth as one lie can lead to another and get out of hand. If your husband really cares and loves you, he may be cross for a while, but hopefully he will come round eventually and give you the support that you need. If the worst comes to the worst, you could say it was an accident, but deep down it's whether you can live with that. it is always best to come clean.
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Friday 19th of February 2010 11:04:18 PM
I guess you will have to tell him sooner or later as your baby will start to grow and soon there is no hidding from the fact you are pregnant. I guess you can either come clean completely and tell him you stopped taking the pill without telling him or you go for the other route that you turned out to be the 1% of women that do get pregnant while taking the pil. This will have to be your decision and will require careful consideration as it will affect you for the rest of your life (and your baby's). No matter which decision it will probably take your husband quite a while to come terms with the fact he is going to be a father while he might not been ready for that.
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Sunday 21st of February 2010 06:53:05 AM
I think such a situation it is best to face the consequences already and have a conversation with your husband. Explain everything and is true. Sometimes the truth hurts less and have more positive future consequences of the lie or omission. Good luck.
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Sunday 21st of February 2010 03:33:38 PM
My advice is to not tell you right away what you did.He will be totally mad you did not obey his rule but after the baby is here and he will get used to the idea of having another baby he will get over it.
You can tell him that you took the pills but it did happens with the pills too.Maybe they were expired.How can he prove you did not take them?
good luck!
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Thursday 4th of March 2010 03:53:44 AM
Getting pregnant is a decision of both, not just one but two. If your husband says so then you should have discussed this with him before hand. And since it's there already, come clean and get your self ready for the worst or the better. We'll never know what his reaction will be, but being honest to him is a different thing.
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