|
|
My 5 Year Old Hates The Baby.
|
I'm very excited to be having another baby. My husband and I waited until the 20 weeks (gender) ultrasound before we told my son that he was going to be a big brother. We thought he would be thrilled. We were absolutely shocked when he started crying and shouted that he hates the baby and doesn't want him. He said he's the baby and will throw the new baby away. After I stop crying, how do I talk to my son and explain that we won't love him any less than we do now?
 |
|
|
 (4 Answers) |
Tuesday 23rd of March 2010 11:38:28 AM
hi there dear and that is though time for yoiu but it must been a hard time to your son as well, thats normaly to kids be jealous specialy when they are single kids that never experienced what is share the parents attentiomn with anyone else, so probably he does not hate the baby, he mjust had say that in a explosive moment, kids usualy dont know even what a hate means specialy around 5 years old too young to realise what this feeling means, so what you must do is be more lovely and friendly with him, get to share the news and make him get integrated with this new experience in his life, show that he is a need person in all this change, may after he feels like he is important to help you guys to receive the baby, he will start see that he is not losing anything and start accept and even enjoy the new sister or bother that he will have. but more than ever you guys must show him that he is loved but dont encourage him to act like a baby during this time or it will be more hard when the new person arrives,
Report abuse
|
Monday 31st of May 2010 03:37:43 PM
I can imagine how shocked you was when your little boy said this to you. You have to remember that it has always been you and your husband and him, so he has had you both to himself for the last 5 years. It can be hard for a little one to accept that he will have to share you with someone else. I wouldn't worry too much though because he will change. The best thing I did when I had the same problem, is reassure them that he will always be your baby as he was your first, explain that the new baby will need him as a big brother to show him everything, I also bought my son a present from my baby boy when he was born, and we gave it to him in the hospital the day his baby brother was born. I wish you well but everything will be ok, even though you may not feel this way right now. Just reassure him, and make sure he knows how important he is, involve him ask him if he can think of any names that might be nice for the new baby.
Report abuse
|
Wednesday 10th of February 2010 03:33:10 PM
he will get used with this.My kid did the same, saying now the baby is coming he won't be the only one in our life, but when we explain that the love for brothers is the most important thing in the whole Universe and his brother will love him the most, he stopped from crying.
Now he loves him so much, every day is kissing and embrassing him.
I am sure he will get over it! It is just a phase, the shock of the news!
Good luck!
Report abuse
|
Thursday 24th of June 2010 08:34:24 AM
Sometimes it happens that due to some reason kids dont like baby as they thought that when baby will come all will love them only and devote more time to them than me and parents love will distribute in two part ..It could be happen that he has seen it somewhere like this and somewhere in his mind it is set now that he dont want baby.So first try to bring out that fear that he is not alone if his brother or sister will come he can play with them , can share his thougthts .dont loose the hope and try this daily and slowly dont force him slowly he will understand.
Report abuse
|
|
