Strained Relationship With My Mom.
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I'm 17 and expecting. My mom is a wonderful woman and we used to be best friends. Now that I'm pregnant, our relationship is starting to change. She's being supportive and helping me every way that she can, but I feel sometimes like she feels that she's as much of the baby's parent as I am. I appreciate her advice and guidance, but I want to make some decisions on my own, too. Today we had an argument over baby names. How do I tell her that I love her and need her, but need a little room, too?
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Karmen Sunday 7th of February 2010 06:59:50 AM
Well, you've just write the right words to tell her: you love her and need her but need a space. She's probaby just protecting you and still can't accept that her baby is going to have a baby.
If she haven't had the support she needed during pregnancy, she wants you to have all.
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Sunday 7th of February 2010 09:35:03 AM
Usually, first-time soon-to-be grandmothers are a little pushy and too concern most of the time. I have been through with this all the time. What I normally do, I just allow her to behave that way. You cannot also take that away from her because she's all the more anxious to see you go through the whole process of child bearing which she herself have experienced before when she bore you.
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Tuesday 9th of February 2010 05:03:06 PM
Maybe it is because you are so young and expecting a kid is a serious problem.
for your mother you are still a kid(and in some issues you are), she won't stop doing this especially now when you will need her all the time around you.
it is hard to accept, but trust me she is more experienced then you and all you have to gain is ,ore experience too.So please, accept her advices!
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Thursday 18th of March 2010 06:38:16 PM
It is not easy for your mom because she still sees you as a little girl and at seventeen, you still are her little girl and always will be. You should sit down and tell her just what you said here. I am sure when she has heard it from you in a nice quiet,non argumentative way she will give you some room. Your relationship is bound to change as you get older. When you have your baby and go to work I am sure she will sit for you. There will have to be some very hard and fast rules on the care of the baby issued by you. Those rules should include things like feeding, naps, toilet training and other things that you will have your own views on. This will also cause some problems but quiet conversation is best.
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Sunday 11th of April 2010 05:57:03 PM
It is normal sometimes for a pregnant woman to have personal indifferences. I suggest you must not undergo this kind of attitude, try to relax and be thankful of your mom. Few mother are supportive on this stage. Some mother restrained to help thier child on early pregnancy just to punish them for doing it.
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Wednesday 17th of March 2010 06:41:50 AM
hi there momy, that is pretty normal to happen when it comes from future grandMa's, and may she is acting like that coz she is too excited about have her own grandson, and to other side she must been looking at you like her lil girl that will have another baby as well so she is trying to show and share her experience with you, thats pretty wonderful if you look for the bright side of it, you are pretty young and she is accepting the idea pretty great and even been supportive to you, its not what always happen when a 17 years old girl get pregnant. I bet you would have some patience with her about the advises and be honest with her and discuss with her that her advises are pretty helpfull but sometimes you would like to decide yourself what is the best thing to do. happy pregnancy dear. Cheers.
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