Supporting My Wife After Miscarriage.
|
My wife had a miscarriage 3 weeks ago and since then she has been extremely depressed. I'm grieving, too, but I handle it by trying to push forward. She is distant and weeps a lot. I want to help her, but I don't know how. She has even started saying that she doesn't want to try anymore because she's afraid of being hurt again. How do I help my wife cope with our miscarriage?
 |
|
|
 (3 Answers) |
Friday 12th of March 2010 08:46:57 AM
sorry to hear of your exoerience, that is a though moment for you both and I believe just the time can help her to get over it, it so recently what happened to you, the best support you can give to her is show all your love, respect if she wants to get her time a bit distant, and try don't hit any subjects about pregnancy at least for a while.
Report abuse
|
Thursday 18th of March 2010 12:58:56 PM
Hello
You can help her cope with the miscarriage by changing her perceptions. You can start by allowing her a little more time to grieve but slowly convince her to accept what happened. Gauge if you can possibly talk to her about acceptance, otherwise just holding/hugging her more often will suffice. See how you can distract her from her sulking by slowly giving her other things to look forward to (hobbies/interest that can keep her busy) that she will not have the minute to weep.
To take the stress off your shoulders, you are grieving too, so try not to think too much. You need to hold the reins.
A little later, when the above won't work. Make her realize that the time she said i am afraid to be hurt again, she ends the possibility of experiencing the noblest of women - motherhood.
Best regards
Report abuse
|
Thursday 18th of March 2010 03:58:34 PM
You can be loving and get her some professional help if it goes on much longer. You don't say how long she was pregnant but, a woman bonds with that baby from the day she knows it's there. By the time a woman gives birth she knows that bay as if it had been around forever. So your wife may be grieving but her grief is different from yours. It would be a good idea for both of you to see a professional or join a grief group so that you can both cope with this a a couple.
Report abuse
|
