Needs Versus Tradition
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My family traditionally holds baby showers after the baby is born so that everyone can see the new addition. This would be fine with me except that I could really use some of the big baby stuff like a crib and car seat before the baby is born. Is it bad form to request that we break tradition and have the shower beforehand?
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Tuesday 23rd of February 2010 04:04:17 AM
Perhaps you could find a compromise and hold a pre-baby shower with the promise to have a post-baby party afterward, perhaps a little name-giving party? It really depends how rooted your family are in tradition. If they are flexible and understanding, who knows you may even start a new tradition. The key is to concult with people beforehand and I'm sure they will understand
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Friday 19th of February 2010 05:16:50 AM
You may risk upsetting people. It may be an idea to compromise - on your terms though. Explain to your family that you desperately need these items for your child beforehand and arrange for a baby shower a few weeks before your baby is born. Once you have had your baby and when you are feeling up to it, have a party to celebrate the new arrival - many cultures do exactly that. This way you get what you need without offending anyone.
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Sunday 28th of February 2010 01:01:09 AM
Not really. Just let your family know that it would be easier for you and the baby to have the shower before. This will allow for more bonding time for you and baby after his or her birth, as well as time to get adjusted. You can also inform them that it will give them more time to relax and get to know the bundle of joy without the stress of attending a baby shower during such a stressful time.
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Saturday 6th of March 2010 04:30:21 AM
Tradition for me is tradition per se so why change it just because you want these stuff ahead of time. You don't need the car seat and crib before birth. You can ask your family to have the baby shower soon as you get out of the hospital. That way you don't break the tradition and you get the stuff by the time you need it.
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