Craving Attention
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I had a whole picture in my head of the sweet things that my husband would do for me when I was pregnant. I had an image of him massaging my feet and kissing my tummy before he left for work. Now that I am pregnant, I'm really disappointed that things really haven't changed. It isn't that he is ignoring me, he just doesn't think of the little things that I was hoping for. Would it be wrong for me to hint that I would like some more attention and affection?
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Thursday 18th of February 2010 12:58:18 PM
No, you should tell him what you want. Women seem to think that men know what to do but they really don't. You literally have to spell it out for them. If you need to make a list of the things that you want him to do then do it. You have to tell them step by step on how to do things. It's all in the way you approach him. Tell him in a nice soothing and calm voice and don't bitch at him. Just simply tell him in a nice way what you want him to do. I think this will work very well for you.
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Thursday 4th of March 2010 04:01:23 AM
Of course. You can ask all you want while you're at it. Remember, all pregnant women must get the attention they could get. It just a matter of asking and pretty sure your husband would be so obliging as ever. Put a little drama on what you want him to do, it'll add spice to the cravings you wanted.
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Sunday 21st of February 2010 08:22:39 AM
Definitely not, but unfortunately men don't feel the way wwe feel.for them pregnancy is only a way that the child come into this world, and we the women are the carriers.Another thing that they might feel is that the pregnancy took away the woman they have, so now someone else is importamt so that's why he act this way, ignoring you and don't thinking to your needs and desires.
Maybe you need to talk to him and ans what he feels about doing all this things, what is he opinions about.Asking him to do that it only turn him way from you .
wish you well!
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Monday 22nd of February 2010 04:21:31 AM
Just talk to him, and reassure yourself that he is caring and concerned for you. Often while we are pregnant we are more sensitive to little issues like this. Try not to dwell too much on exactly the way you expect things to be. You will find once the baby arrives - its nothing like you expected! If there is something specific that your husband could do to make you feel better - then just tell him about it. I'm sure he will be willing to make you happy.
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Tuesday 23rd of February 2010 03:49:11 AM
Our perception and expectations of what to expect during pregnancy is often moulded by the media. It is important to remember that not all men are as romantic and emotionally in tune as in the movies. Having said that it is not unreasonable of you to crave some additional attention. Hinting isn't the answer though. Have a direct heart to heart with your husband about how you feel and you may be surprised that he is actually keen to do these things for you.
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Thursday 18th of February 2010 04:50:00 PM
Men are not mind readers. If you feel in need of more TLC, you need to tell him, or, ask him instead. Men don't have the typical nurturing qualities of women, they tend to be manly and practical, not emotional like us. It probably hasn't even crossed his mind - maybe his way of shoing he cares is by doing chores or making dinner. In any case, you need to ask him to rub your feet and give you a massage. As for talking to your belly, some men feel silly. It may be worth putting his hand on your bump when junior is moving to try and get him interested - you may find he starts talking to your bump when he gets a reaction from baby.
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