He's Smothering Me
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I know that my husband has the best of intentions, but since he found out that we are having a baby, I can't get him off of my back. He is constantly reminding me of how I should eat, sleep and exercise. He's never mean or rude. In fact, in the beginning I thought all the attention he was giving me was sweet. Now, I just want some room to breathe. How can I tell him to ease up without offending him?
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Thursday 18th of February 2010 04:44:36 PM
I would say enjoy the pampering while it lasts, because it won't be forever! Him smothering you is his way of showing you how happy he is and how much he cares. If it is too much for you, remind him in a jokey way that you are a big girl who knows how to look after herself and that he has nothing to worry about. Be kind and sensitive to his needs for wanting to care for you. Being funny about the whole thing may put him off to the point where he can't wait to be away from you, and you don't want that either.
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Sunday 21st of February 2010 04:03:41 PM
You are experiencing what other women are craving for.Most of men don't think and most of them don't care what happened with their partners>they are interested only in their health, and that's it.
so you should be glad that he care for you and try to make this period easy for you!
I know sometime it is hard to listen all the time the nag, but maybe you need to tell him that you also aware of that and no need to remind you every single time.
you are a grown woman now, right?
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Monday 22nd of February 2010 04:18:20 AM
Just be honest with him. He feels like he needs to keep track of you so that he is more a part of the whole pregnancy plan! As you said, I am sure he is just trying to help, but I know, it can become annoying. Try to reassure him that everything is going well and is under control. Perhaps find him something that he could do - for example - paint the baby's room, build a cot, buy clothes, or anything so that he feels like he is doing something constructive.
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Tuesday 23rd of February 2010 03:45:28 AM
Perhaps the best way to tackle this problem is to explain to him that pregnancy often causes increased emotional reaction due to increased hormones. Then explain to him very sensitively that you feel you need him to cut you some slack because you also only want the best for your baby. Another route is to have him attend antenatal classes with you as the group support from other parents may highlight his behaviour.
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Thursday 4th of March 2010 04:30:41 AM
If there's an expectant mother, there is also an expectant father. Its just normal. And it is not offending to tell him directly and honestly. I have the feeling that you're reaction is part of that pregnancy craving - as others has specific food craving, yours is "hating-husband" craving. And perhaps to use this when you tell him what you fee is humorous on his part.
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