Why Isn't He Excited?
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My husband and I decided to start trying for a baby 3 months ago. Last week, I told him that we were expecting and he's been very withdrawn ever since. Sometimes he pretends that he's excited, but I don't think he is being sincere. Why isn't he shouting it from the rooftops like I am?
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Monday 15th of February 2010 02:00:42 AM
Well, this is a hard question to answer when you don't know the particulars of the situation. Is he perhaps worried about the financial burden? Often men see babies just as more money and responsibility at first, and they worry how they will take care of the extra burden. Did you have any problems in your relationship before you fell pregnant? I can only suggest trying to discuss the issue with him in a pleasant manner, and try to find out his concerns. It may also take a male a bit longer to realize the pregnancy implications, after all, the baby is growing in you and not in him. Often a daddy is only more excited once he can hold and physically love the baby. But do try to talk to him.
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Thursday 18th of February 2010 04:50:14 AM
I am sure your husband is probably just very nervous. Men experience the first trimester of pregnancy very differently to women. When the reality of a baby hits them, the first thing they think about is the responsibility they now have to provide for and protect their family. Be sure to talk to your husband about any fears you both might have so you can start reassurring each other. Once the baby starts kicking and he sees the baby on an ultrasound you may find he becomes more excited.
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Thursday 4th of March 2010 03:57:16 AM
Not all expectant fathers react the same way as you do. They may be openly happy and excited but others may be a little bit confused and worried but all the same excited and happy. Your husband might be on this level. He might be confused as what to expect from him, he might be worried as to what will happen to you and the baby, he might be worried because financially he is incapable. There are thousands of reasons but it doesn't necessarily mean that he isn't happy at all.
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Monday 15th of February 2010 04:25:08 AM
Having a baby is a very big responsibility. You are taking a human life and being responsible for its well being for the rest of its existence. And of course, with that, comes numerous expenses, lifestyle changes and several other things.
He is probably just worried about being a good father and provider not only to you but to your baby. I'm sure he is excited. Why don't you take the time to sit down with him and talk things out with him.
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Thursday 18th of February 2010 04:07:56 PM
Some men have a funny way of showing how they feel. Whilst most women are only too happy to show how they feel, men are usually more reserved. Perhaps he is worried financially? Unless you sit down and talk to your husband and ask him what is on his mind, you will not know. Men think in terms of how they can support their partners from a financial rather than emotional way - they are practical creatures. It could be that he just doesn't know how to express himself. Try and get him excited by getting him involved (men do feel left out) - perhaps get him to do the nursery? Go shopping together. But whatever you do, don't say to him that he doesn't care, instead tell him you feel that he has been quite withdrawn lately and that you are concerned that there is something on his mind. Hopefully he will open up and it will be nothing.
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Sunday 21st of February 2010 03:49:42 PM
he is now forced to share with the future baby! men does not like this thing at all.they prefer the women only for them, even it is about their own kid.
In fact men are some grown ups which act like little boys.
So, don't be dissapointed, it is in their nature!all of them!
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